Trusting Once More.
Trust. Defined as ‘the firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something.’ Trust is having confidence in honesty or integrity. An example of this would be having belief that someone is being truthful. Trust is an act of emotion and logic. Emotionally, you are unmasking your vulnerabilities to people, in hope that they will not take advantage. Logically, you have evaluated the gains and losses that come with trust and you have come to the conclusion that the person you are putting your trust into, will behave in a positive manner. Trust can be felt. Trust comes with friendship, companionship, love, comfort, relaxation and agreement.
Trusting once more. This is a hard decision to make to be honest. Someone has broken your trust, they’ve taken advantage of your vulnerabilities, and now you have the hard decision of whether you should trust them again. I believe that the extremity of the situation is something that should be considered before making such a rash decision. Some individuals may genuinely find it difficult to trust someone again — this could be due to past experiences where they’ve been betrayed for instance. Situations like this cause people to develop ‘trust issues’.
Trust issues are when you start to predict how people will break your trust before they even show any signs of untrustworthiness. You find it hard to share how you feel, or to even share your thoughts — you feel like if you reveal these inner feelings and thoughts, people will use them against you as a weakness.
Personal insight alert. I wouldn’t say I have ‘trust issues’, but I am a person who doesn’t like opening up to people around me — regardless of how close these people are to me. I could be emotional about things going on in my life and nobody would ever know. This is due to me not wanting to open up and show people my vulnerable side; I am afraid to show people my ‘weaker’ and ‘softer’ side. I was on the other side of a trust issue where I broke someone’s trust unintentionally and a part of me felt that it was irreversible, a part of me felt like love was lost from this person. The person chose to forgive me and still remain close by and I thank God for that result everyday. Anyways. That is some personal insight for you.
Trusting once more. If you can do it with no fear within you, then do it. Not everybody can find it within themselves to trust someone who took advantage of their vulnerable side once more. ‘I trust you’ is a better compliment than someone saying ‘I love you’ due to the reason that you may not always trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust.
